What I Wish More People Knew About Sex Work

I Am My Genuine Self

Poppy is not a persona or me playing a character. Pretending would be exhausting. When I offer a compliment, it’s because I mean it. My eyes light up when I talk about things I’m passionate about—including this work. I genuinely love what I do, and that enthusiasm naturally carries into my time with clients. As an introvert, my social energy is limited, so I only invest it into those I truly enjoy spending time with.

I Experience Real Enjoyment

I don’t see this work as a performance to endure—I engage because I like sex. A lot. Everyone has different preferences, and part of the fun for me is understanding what excites a person. If I desire something in the moment (and it aligns with your comfort), I’ll express it. Mutual enjoyment enhances the experience for both of us.

I’m here to build your confidence through practice and help you become a better in bed. If I faked enjoyment, it wouldn’t teach you anything. What actually helps is showing you what real pleasure looks like, encouraging open communication, and setting a genuine example of how to express and explore desire. Your future partners will thank me! Haha. 

The Work Behind the Scenes

At first glance, my hourly rate might seem high, but what’s not immediately obvious is the extensive unpaid labour that supports each booking. Running this business means maintaining my online presence, updating my website and ads, planning photo shoots, managing client communication, paying the tax man (sigh), and prioritising my physical and mental wellbeing so I can be fully engaged during our time together. I handle every aspect of this work myself. So when someone asks, “But what else do you do?”—it’s hard not to feel frustrated by the assumption that this job requires little effort.

Sex Workers Can Have Relationships

A common misconception is that sex workers cannot be in relationships. That isn’t true. At this point, I’ve chosen to remain single, with my emotional needs fulfilled by my friends and my physical needs met through my clients. However, many sex workers are in fulfilling, relationships. Like any other profession, success in personal relationships depends on finding a partner who respects the work. If someone cannot accept that, they are not the right partner.

More Than a Stereotype

This work involves far more than the stereotypes suggest. It requires emotional intelligence, and a commitment to self-care and a brain for business. It is a career built on connection and intentionality. There is always more happening beneath the surface than people assume.

Curious to dive deeper into this topic? Let’s chat about it in person—book a date with me!

Poppy Paisley xx